Saturday, August 1, 2009

Little imperfections

This video is the inspiration of this post

I once read a quote which was something like " Friendships is not about two similar people coming together but its about two different people accepting each others differences" .. So true, when we look around us we would notice that the people we call us our own , out actually different from us, in ways more than one, and these differences make our relationships beautiful, isn't it?

One look at my parents, actually any couple of their generation, and we would see that they are generally completely different , yet they stick together like two sides of a coin, inseparable yet facing opposite sides . That's the beauty of their relationships, and if we think a bit on this than acceptance is actually the key to a successful relationship, be it love or friendship.
I have friends whose habits are not in sync with mine, in fact some habits makes me lose my temper, yet those are the very habits that define them , and the acceptance of which makes us great friends, well they have certainly accepted my intolerable habits :D

Of course some common platform has to be there, like perhaps the same approach to life , but I am talking about a level beyond the "common platform", no two people are the same , and we need to accept this. I have seen couples trying to change their partner so as to have a perfect relationship, but the fact is the perfection of any relationship are the "little imperfections" they have .
When i look at couples around me , i See blessed are those who accept each other no matter what, I know a couple who fight every fortnight due the major differences they have in their approach to life, yet when the next morning they get up and comfort each other, the joy in their face is worth a million fights.
Even when I look around at my best friends , I really like their little imperfections and I would like them to have it no matter what.

I mean imagine a world which would be perfect, it would be so boring. If all my friends were perfect, there would be no fight no pulling legs, and no FUN . Imagine going to college one day and finding everything perfect , it would be so dull.

The uncertainty in our life makes us look at it with challenge everyday, and the same thing with relationships , the small differences brings us the chance to fight and then comfort each other..

Happy Friendships day guys !! :) Cheers and enjoy the little imperfections of life....


aprajitha said...

i don't know to agree or disagree :)

Pallav said...

i buy ur point..
wht matter is the understanding b.w the two....

Happy friendship Day


Arnav said...

Thanks for visiting ....
Well, why is that ?

@ Pallav
Thanks for the visit ..
Wish u d same bro :)

Keep Smiling :)

Rakesh Vanamali said...

Friends certainly shape a person's life and are thus very essential in life!

Thanks for the message!


Srivats said...

//The uncertainty in our life makes us look at it with challenge everyday, and the same thing with relationships , the small differences brings us the chance to fight and then comfort each other..

Very well said. Happy friendship day to u too..

Hey please consider changing the background to a ligther one. The words will appear more clearly for morons like me :))

Arnav said...

@ Rakesh
Thanks for the visit ..
Friends surely define a large part of our persona...

@ Srivats
THanks dude
Yaaar actually the theme is a light cream color behind the words and wooden background behind the light cream color, but if net is slow then the cream color doesn't appear :(
Will definitely look for another theme soon....

Reetika said...

Well I agree and disagree as well as it varies from person to person and most importantly in which situation and surrounding the person is. But yes very true " Friendships is not about two similar people coming together but its about two different people accepting each others differences".Cheers!!! :-)Happy Friendship Day Guys and Gals

IndianPundit said...

Agree with a lot of things that u say.


Netika Lumb said...

EXcellent post!
I've been thinking about this for a while. I have this habit of tokofying my brother for everything. That's just coz I want him to get rid of the imperfections . But I realized, I should just let him be.

Nice post!

Vineet kumar said...

:) ... Guess this smiley gives you the message .

Arnav said...

@ Reetika Di and Indian Pundit

Thanks for the visit ...

@ Netika

Thanks :)
Why do all the elder sis always have this habbit, But you know what I love my sis like that. She is married and i really miss those fights :(
I am sure ur bro loves u d same.

@ Vineet ..

Yes it truly does bhai..

Keep Smiling and Visiting ...

lena said...

unless you want the same things from life as your friends or a partner things wont work out. Noone is perfect and only when we are able to look beyond imperfectness we might be happy in our relationships, what matters is how well you understand each other.

Arnav said...

Thanks for the visit..
Well true we need to look beyond imperfections for a beautiful relation.. :)

Keep smiling and visiting...

Mahesh Sindbandge said...

Hmmm i agree..

jab perfect rahenge to realistic bhi nahi lagega.. aur mazaa bhi nahi aayega..
ek dusre ko samajhna hi to zindagi hai...

Very good post dude...

Its all about understanding :)


Arnav said...

@ Mahesh

Thanks for the visit,
Yes its all about understanding :)

Keep smiling and Visiting

Shruti said...
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Shruti said...

hey arnav, thnx for your comment on my blog.
i too firmly believe one thing "No two human being are same",yet we like something with someone and eventually they become our friends!! thats what you told sync! I call it as matching of wavelength..
very neatly portrayed..
this made me follow your blog!

Arnav said...

Thanks :)

Matching of wavelength it is :)

Kavita A said...

"Beauty of life lies in its complexity".
If we find someone exactly like ourselves, then what is the need of that person, we ourselves are capable of giving those ideas, reacting to situtions in a particular manner and doing all the tasks that are done in that way.
And if friends are so much opposite that every talk results in arguments, then what is the point in having the person as your friend.
As everywhere else, moderation is the key to success here.
And taking time to explore your friends, having discoveries every a journey worth going to...

Arnav said...

Thanks for visitng :)

truly discovering our friend is a great journy worth going through :)

Netika Lumb said...

No no.. My brother is elder to me :P
He doesn't improve me, I am perfect you know :D which is why I go around improving him :)

Arnav said...

Great, Guess I shuld try the sme on my eder sis, too :)

Indrajit said...

Hi, thanks for your comment. pardon me, I could not 'follow' you,since the access isn't avl here and I don't have my system with my at home.
I started this post and left it halfway for soemthing else coming up. Would finish it soon.

Once,. I hve my system back, I would read everything asap. Tc.

Post Man said...

true dude...i have always accepted that every being has the perfect right to be the way he/she wanna be. Its these uneveness that gives the meaning to friendship/love. In a broader picture, world can be a much better place if everyone can accept eachother's imperfections.

---blog updated----chk out

Arnav said...


Thanks for the visit dude .. :)


Thanks for the visit ... WOuld check out your blog soon..

Ekam said...

Very well said. Its just the understanding and trust between two persons which make them friends. Nothing else matters. Very nice post :)

Arnav said...


welcome to my blog :)

Thanks ...

Understanding and acceptance are the key to any relation :)

keep visiting and smiling :)